This post is going to be about:
- Self definition / lying to oneself
- Confrontation & Conflict
- Distancing oneself from the negators
Here’s a chapter from everyday life, often enough people lie to themselves; like Leonard in Memento. But, the lies of the others seldom bother the common men, for they decide to march on ignoring the tales. In the face of a conflict however, things go awry of there is an imposition of self definition rooted on self delusion and narcissistic self indulgence – there is a whole lotta trouble.
Self definition like delusion
As Nolan says in the aforementioned movie, we all lie to ourselves in one point of time in the minuscule period of our life. But, that shouldn’t be the cause of a meaningless conflict which could drag people apart. Time and again, I’ve faced people who thrust false definitions of themselves onto me. I usually turn my cheek to such behavior, but when my peace is shattered – especially my sleep! There are repercussions to the causer of anxiety!!
Conflict could be catastrophic says Vision in Civil War
Alfred Hitchcock is known to cause silly troubles at the sets of his films. Tormenting poor actresses with practical jokes which could in the end pay off well with their performances. If you could or couldn’t see Hitch playing such pranks is an another matter, but here my point is – even such a jovial person takes conflicts so seriously.
Take a look at this interview, where he confesses his hate for any sharp word.
Is there a solution besides running away?
I have called BS on the negators who’d rather shy away pointing the finger instead of accepting their own. I find it best to say it to them, that their behaviour is of ill thought. I even went far ahead and said that the flaw is deep rooted and you can’t change it even if you try. Then, I distance myself from them.
It is best to point out their narcissistic characteristic trait and walk away with a stern face. There is no room for emotions, sympathy or empathy in such scenarios. These people constantly way in if they can dig in any flaw to punch on it; or scounder to pull you down. These people can’t be rid off the face of the earth. They feed on anxiety and any creative & philosophical difference they can find.
Bullies can’t be banished. “This isn’t reality TV” Instead, we can opt to stand our ground and go on going on.